Never Compare. by Francis Okpaleke.
Oftentimes, we are faced with the temptation of defining our lives and measuring our self-worth using the progress of those around us as a yardstick. That former school friend that now lives abroad, the neighbour that drives a fancy car, and has a wonderful family, the close friend that works with a multinational company or a colleague/family member that is living the good life we hope for. In our hearts, we wish them well but these nagging thoughts perpetually inundate our minds: God when? When will you bless me? Why do they have it all together? What are they doing differently? Why is my family not wealthy? I visited Dar es Salaam, Tanzania for a conference a few years ago and I left with an invaluable lesson. On arrival at the venue, I met fellow Africans who had come from Europe, Canada, and the United States as well as other parts of Africa to present their papers and I suddenly lost my confidence. It was my first time outside Nigeria and I was mesmerized seeing Ph.D. ...